by hocksoonyew » Sat Jun 28, 2014 9:47 am
We have been brainwashed into thinking the fallacy of developing good character because the material world sees success spelt with the dollar sign and the only way to achieve that is to get good education leading to good degrees and hopefully landing a good salary paying job, etc etc.
The real answer was shared by Alex and below is the extract ....
Extract from Forum Discussion .By Alex 28Mar13
Rewarding kids when they do well in studies is an easy way to raise kids. The real test is when they do not do well in studies and relationship, how do you treat them then?
A lot of parents are so tied up with time. They forgot to guide and develop their children’s character. Character is a much more complex subject to guide compared to improving in their studies’
To teach your kids to love good and bad things is not easy. Parents must learn to understand the meaning of love and the application before they can explain and teach the kids. If they are not willing to learn the 3P, it is impossible for the kids to love correctly.
Doing well in studies does not mean love. It can mean fear, ego, inferiority or superiority complex....endless reasons. .But to teach your kids to study with love and to love all creation, requires a parent to understand 3P deeply and passionately to guide the kids in this direction. 3P broaden horizons and deepen the understanding of life, CLT kids will be more balanced and secured in their upbringing if they learn this.
Balance and harmonious energy field will usher in good things in life. Character development (or the heart) is the key to doing well in life and not just studying at school. Learning things at school or at work cannot filter out bad information, Eg of doing well in studies but bad friends can input bad influence like smoking, online gambling etc
So parents have lost focus on this aspect of upbringing in their kids.